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SOMEONE ELSE’S SUCCESS IS NOT YOUR FAILURE

The definition of success on Google.

So this morning I saw a post about a 26-year-old Ghanaian woman who runs an accredited international college. She is the youngest woman in Africa to do that.

What got me first was, she’s 26 and I’m 26.

In my head I was saying, “Oh my gosh, I’m such a failure! What have I been doing with my life??” ect ect.

As quick as that thought came into my head, it disappeared.

No. You are not a failure.

Why is it that I felt the need to tell myself that I am not good enough simply because another woman who happens to be the same age as I am, is running a college and I’m not?

So what??

That does not make me any less successful than she is.

Our degrees of success are meant to be different.

No two singers or writers or actors will ever have the same level of success. That is just how the world works.

It was completely unfair of me to compare myself to this woman that I saw on Twitter.

Comparing your life to that of someone else, is a sure way to make you feel as if you haven’t achieved anything. It literally makes you forget what you have, what you have done or who you are, simply because you don’t have what someone else does.

Only last week an online magazine published one of my posts on their social media sites and it made me so incredibly happy. To me, that was a milestone in my success story but as soon as I saw the tweet about this 26-year-old woman who runs a college, that completely left my mind and I felt a tinge of envy.

And for what??

We are all meant to succeed at different stages of our lives, in different areas, doing different things.

How boring would it be if we were all the same?

Not all of us are meant to run colleges or be writers so why compare the two?

I admit, I sometimes do the same thing or feel the same why when I see or read about someone younger than myself doing more with their lives or when their social media pages look more interesting, I feel like my life is boring and I’m not achieving anything. And I can guarantee that I am not the only feeling this way.

Yes?

Yes.

The thing is, we think exposure or what we see on social media is success.

You need to remember that what you see on social media is not always real life and people tend to post only the good things but I can assure you, everyone has a personal struggle they are facing.

Everyone goes through challenges.

Another thing is that age is no indication of success. Stop limiting yourself by saying you will achieve 1,2 and 3 by the age of 30. You need to be flexible because in reality, life happens and plans don’t always work out.

Many people have achieved success late in life or at an older age. We all know Susan Boyle who became a singing sensation at the age of 47.

Vera Wang started her career as a designer at the age of 40.

Stan Lee created “Fantastic Four” just before he was 40.

Samuel L. Jackson landed an award winning role at the age of 43.

There are many many others just like them and who knows, your name could also be added to that list someday.

In the end, I am grateful that I saw that tweet and without her knowing it, Caroline Esinam Adzogble, inspired me today by being the youngest woman in Africa to run a college and I hope by writing this post, I have inspired you too.

And remember, the only time you become a failure, is when you stop trying.

I leave you with 5 quotes on success that really speak to what I was trying to get through to you today:

“It is better to fail in originality than to succeed in imitation.”

— Herman Melville

“I find that the harder I work, the more luck I seem to have.”

— Thomas Jefferson

“Stop chasing the money and start chasing the passion.”

— Tony Hsieh

“The ones who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones that do.”

— Anonymous

“If you really look closely, most overnight successes took a long time.”

— Steve Jobs

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